Hand Washing

I made an observation the other day. That came from out of no-where, so I am musing about it.

A friend and I were discussing others.

Yes, we were talking about folks who were not present. Folks who were a source of frustration to us. Sometimes carelessly referred to as gossiping.

But for me, the definition of gossip is when the purpose is for gaining things – like position – through maligning others.

But when I am dealing with hurt, or frustration, and have another person to help me process it, with the ultimate purpose being to understand myself, and the ones being discussed, its in the Spirit of “seeking to understand before seeking to be understood” Stephen Covey.

What we were asking ourselves was why a few were so enthralled with rehearsing the failures of others. They constantly bring up the past errors and missteps of others.

My intuition told me it’s about hand washing… the allusion I’ve already alluded to.

It’s my own inadequacy and failure that drives me to rehearse the failure of others.

What is the alternative?

Acceptance of myself, humility.

Humility can be defined as a correct self assessment. Therefore God himself is humble… He is the almighty God! He knows it!

But what of actually guilt? What does your faith and/or belief system do for your own guilt? If you have the compulsion to wash your hands… maybe you need to reassess things?

But Brene Brown in “Rising Strong as a Spiritual Practice” talks about the angst of not having fulfilled one’s calling. The older one gets… the greater the need to justify – in one’s heart and mind – what one has or hasn’t done!

To be continued?