I told you I’d never give up on him, and I have not.
Saying to NO to his request for money was not giving up on him.
You, Pegah, may be in a position to turn Nick towards the help he needs.
It’s only because of my recent close-in relationship with my own brother Andrew’s Bipolar disorder that I have come to understand it so well. It really answers all the questions about Nick’s behaviour.
The word “should” is a nice word, until you realize it’s very similar to “I wish”
I was the only one alive on the planet that had not given up on Andrew. He came to me, ready to listen, ready to submit to care. He moved back to Canada in April 2023, and I picked him up from the airport.
He now has
– a PWD income
– ID (we had to get it back, cuz he lost it)
– MSP
– subsidized housing at an organization called “More Than a Roof”
– he is independent of me
The same thing happened when my oldest brother Glenn hit Rock bottom, he turned to me.
But guess what? In both cases their ex- wives worked with me to make that happen. Both remain unmarried, and independent, but both have that connection that sustains them.
You have the power to speak to Nick, and have him get help.
None of the rest of us do.
I know the system, where the help is, and how to access it.
Nicholas is not unique. Just the details are.
Neither are you, unique. You are a good person who never signed up for this nightmare. You married a wonderful young man with what I now see was a Bipolar disorder, exasperated by a dysfunctional family.
I look back at key moments in Nicholas’s life where he was alienated from me by the deliberate intentions and actions of his Mother. I can’t go back in time, but I see it all, but it’s past, it’s passed.
Lori is now completely alienated from all 4 children.
Miracle is that the other 3 have been on their way back together. Each of them have a kind of peace with me where they are independent of me, and I them, but our relationships are growing.
I’m guiding them to love and support one another.
Jamie and Sarah have not turned ugly or bitter against Nick. But they both are helpless, powerless to speak or do… both would welcome a humble Nick at their door.
I’m not telling you what to do here. I just wanted you to know some details.
Thank you for your info, I’m in pain and praying all the time, all the more for him.
One more thing, I remember when Nick and I had long overdue conversation, we were pulled over near UBC you were in the backseat, coaching him to listen better.
Running Down Vimy 